On Friday, the man I’ve loved for 20+ years told me, based on how he feels, that he won’t make it to his birthday in mid August.
How does one deal with that.
Lennox and Papa Sunday morning snuggles….
I think a person draws on strength they didn’t know they had at times like this and you will do the same Boo. No, it won’t be easy , it is going to hurt like hell. Just love him for as long as you have him. And when his time comes, let him go. It’s all you can do. 😦 ♥♥Hugs♥♥
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I will tell him when it’s time, that it’s ok to go.
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Give him love. Is he now open for you to contact Hospice?
This is hard we are never prepared for the end of life no matter how we think we are. Losing the love of our lives is even more devastating.
We spoke of Hospice this weekend. I tried to get him to understand they would help with his pain. He didn’t say NO this time.
If he has said that then he knows better than anyone outside his body.
Sue ~ I urge you to call hospice. Get the info you need. Even if they do not come into visit him yet you can get some very beneficial advice and counsel from the hospice workers. They have booklets and other info to assist you with many topics but also including recognizing the several stages of end of life. You may be uncomfortable with some of the info but you will be glad you went now rather than at the last minute. Once hospice IS visiting Nick then when he is gone they will still be available to you through the first full year.
I got some of those booklets already from River. I have to find out and I just can’t. I can’t do anything right now.
Yes, to the above. Hospice workers can be lifesavers in so many ways. We couldn’t say enough for ours. You’ll know when you’re both ready. I remember daddy saying that my uncle held on longer than anyone expected and when the time came so did daddy. One never really knows. Close your eyes and make memories.
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You know I agree with the two above
Last night he finally said maybe. I’ll be calling today.
No words can express the sadness at this time. Hospice will help him, so good for you to take that hard, yet important step to help him through to the end. This journey will be the worst one of your life, but know that you have many friends who will be here through it all and after. You know I am only a phone call and Skype away. Love to you both!!!
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